“I’m afraid I will only feel fractions of feelings I have felt before.”
“I like watching people, think what they are thinking, feel through how much break ups they have been through.”
I am watching “Her”, a movie about a broken man after his long marriage ended. He’s lonely and scared, he’s needy and again, lonely. This movie is deep, it’s labeled a sci-fi.. why?
“Can I watch you sleep again tonight?”
He installs a new operation system which is basically a personalised assistant. The point is, he falls in love with her, without ever seeing her, without touching her, just talk and imagination. Now this may sound weird, I agree, it totally is, falling in love with a computer is unimaginable, but, it’s a movie, it’s about the message. I do have to agree, I am mixing my history in to this, seeing this movie is like seeing my self from the outside, perfect for self analysis. One thing I always do is imagine my self in to the movie, I was just talking to someone about this the other day, I can totally destroy my self because of one movie, only sleep helps me get through it. I imagine what they are thinking, feeling, mostly feeling, how can they feel what they feel, what are their thoughts and how are they getting there.
The movie shows a bond between two people that is not physical at all, just talk, just words, the power of words in this movie are shown so perfectly, how feelings evolve on the line of words, how far they can get a person.
Being only at the middle of the story it’s the high point, he’s in love with her, she’s in love with him. The bad part is coming, the really bad part is just about to come and I feel frightened because I know that he realises what he wants, he can not have, it will never be possible and he’s going to be devastated and lonely, again. I’m curious where it goes.
The thoughts flowing through my head say that a good relationship should be based on the same simbol this movie is about, words and communication. Find that bond, find that excitement, find the person that makes you get excited only by talking to her, gets you lost and then comes the getting closer to eachother, because that’s when it is going to be insanely amazing, there’s a build up, the end is always about touching. The in between is communication and talking. That is going to make it work. Period.
Watch the movie and try feeling what he is, try seeing the pain and the struggle, everyone will benefit from it.
P.S.: These are my thoughts, I ain’t perfect, at all.